I wrote this in a little desperation and hurt almost a year and a half ago and just saw it in my journal again tonight. I still pretty well like how I wrote it so I thought it would make a good blog post for tonight.
I wish more young girls would wait for a young man who has grown up loving and honoring women and girls. Instead, far too many run around with boys who don’t care about them just to have a good time. Of course, this only leads to heartache and the blame usually belongs to both the boy and girl but from my perspective I’ve seen more girls’ hearts used by selfish boys than the other way around. Hearts are not a toy to be so easily thrown around.
Why does a young man think he can have all the fun he wants when he’s young but then wants the best wife he can find when he’s ready for marriage? He wants a woman who saved herself for him but he doesn’t save himself for her. He wants her first kiss but he gave his away years ago.
What about the young woman with noble character?
What about the young woman who strives to do her husband good all the days of her life?
What about the young woman who saves everything for the man she’ll marry?
What about the young woman who thinks about her future husband and what belongs to him; above herself and what she wants in the moment?
What about the young woman who prays for her future husband, not about her relationship with him but just for him?
What about the young woman who dresses modestly out of love for her brothers in Christ?
What about the young woman who is feminine and ladylike in appearance, word, and deed?
What about the young woman who gives her heart to a young man, hoping it’s for forever but he only wants it for a short time?
She’s unwanted, unnoticed, and uncared for until the day the young men decide they’d like to be married. Then they want the best—they want her. But why should she give her heart away to somebody who has been so selfish? Why would his selfish habits change overnight just because he met her?
She hopes for more than this. She hopes for a young man with noble character who has done her good all the days of his life; a young man who cares for her even though he doesn’t know her yet; a young man who has saved everything for her-—a young man who has stayed as far away from the cliff as possible instead of seeing how close he can creep before falling over the edge. She hopes for a young man who treasures her heart and purity and who is willing to protect it at great costs. She hopes for a young man to love her who truly knows what love is.
She’s waiting for him and he’s waiting for her.