My dad said I had to be a good friend to have any friends. So I have been, but where did they all go–the male friends, that is?
Is it possible for a boy and girl to be “just friends?” Such a question. So often asked. Controversial. Boys tend to say “no,” girls tend to say “yes.” In theory it’s certainly possible, but I’m beginning to see the reality that it doesn’t often happen, or maybe I just don’t know how to do it with my life.
I try making friends with young men. I don’t make friends with them because they’re male or because I simply want a friend, but because we honestly have similar interests and I’d love to know them. I befriend them with no intention of flirting or even dating them down the road, but time and time again . . . and again they leave just after apologizing about how they acted like a jerk around me. Really though, is it their fault it didn’t work? I so seriously doubt it. These are good guys—most definitely not jerks. So many fails and I’ve been on one side of all of them. Aren’t I the problem? What am I doing wrong? I try so hard to be genuine, kind, happy, encouraging, interesting, modest, and meek. Why do they almost all disappear?
I let them go, with understanding each time knowing they’re busy, sometimes they have a girlfriend, they have other closer friends than me already, they have sisters and they don’t need another one, but I’m tired of letting go. Does it really have to happen?
Maybe it’s impossible to answer any of these questions without knowing me or my situations. If anyone wants to give a stab at it though, I’d be grateful.