Christian guys expect girls to be modest, but hardly give a second though to their own modesty.
This is strange. Women may be shedding clothes this time of year, but so are men. Why are we only talking about female modesty? If modesty is important then it is important for all Christians. If it isn’t important for men, then why all the fuss about women? If it is important for women, why the silence about men?
Is it because guys can’t be immodest?
Nope. I’m pretty sure the existence of speedos rules out that possibility.
Is it because girls don’t struggle with physical lust?
Nope. Pretty sure Potiphar’s wife wasn’t the last woman to “cast her eyes” on a guy and lust after his “handsome form and appearance” (Gen. 39:6-7).
But by our silence we send the message that modesty is a female issue and lust is a male issue. Guys sit around the pool wearing low-rise trunks and tanning their abs and pecs while wishing the girls would cover up. And girls are left wondering what people will think if they admit to struggling with lust.
…These discussions can be dangerous. For one thing, talking about modesty and lust in the same article can imply that immodesty causes lust, which is a destructive lie. No man (or woman) was ever forced to lust by another person’s outfit. For another, allowing men or women to give feedback to the opposite sex makes it look like our modesty is for each other. It’s not. It’s for God. Input from the opposite sex just helps.
Read the rest at The Other Side of Modesty from the Rebelution blog.